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Reposting from Reddit

Today’s post, which should have been posted two weeks ago Friday (more on that in the article below), is guested from Reddit via Ramit Sethi. I’m finding, as I work on writing everyday, as opposed to thinking about writing everyday (which is still a far cry from actually just writing everyday), that myriad threads of thought are once again winding their way through my mind. Occupying my space, so to speak, and creating connections. These are the kinds of thoughts that fuel passion, open the heart, and disallow complacency. At least in me. The sort that got me out on a delightful nude cruise yesterday morning, to a wonderful late afternoon sisterhood meal (homemade naan, biodynamic wine, and chocolate tasting, egads!), ecstatic dancing last night, and kept me in bed enjoying a lovely rest this morning. How exactly are we supposed to lives our lives, anyway?

I viewed some of the Occupy videos on FB as I enjoyed my coffee earlier, and more than a few brought tears to my eyes. This one on UC Davis Chancellor Katehi will lead you to others. Additionally, I’ve got the Thrive movie going on YouTube, and I’m watching it in increments as I move through my other work today. Oh, two more movie suggestions, both available instantly on Netflix. Buck and The Horse Boy. I especially enjoyed The Horse Boy as I’ve had my own personal experiences with shamanic healing; being healed, participating in group healings, and now in continuing to help heal others and myself. It’s the exact magic I dreamed of as a child, and to finally find it via The Sacred Trust has been absolutely life altering. But back to some sting prior to honey, which is always the best way to have it.

After reading the below (that’s not a typo), head over to Ramit’s website if you’re intrigued. Don’t expect to have everything handed to you, although he’s amazingly generous with his work. You’ll have to do some digging, and sign up for his newsletter, and read what he write, and, most importantly, take action when he asks you to do so. But the rewards are solid. He’s a sly one, hiding timeless wisdom in a decidedly puckish persona.

So, on to the guest post:

“Reddit, how do I stop being so fucking lazy?”

“Look man, there are literally hundreds of good ways to get on with the tasks on your plate. I find a combination of good goal setting and use of things like The Pomodoro Technique work wonders for helping me get stuff done and move forward.

But it’s not so much about being productive. It’s about living up to your word.

I’m guessing that you’re a creative, intelligent sort of person. Are you a perfectionist? That seems likely. Oftentimes, people with those characteristics really get bogged down by the magnitude of the tasks in front of them. Doing something means risking failing at it. Sometimes that risk seems to loom so large, and the drive to perfectionism is so strong, that any sort of meaningful and productive task just seems like it’s not worth it. Why risk failing, when you can just do something else instead?

Of course, in the back of your mind you know that those choices are causing you to fail anyway. That’s why you’re miserable.

So you have to re-think things in a different way. First up, you have to give yourself permission to fail, permission to be less than perfect sometimes. Failing at something, making mistakes, opens up a great opportunity to learn something new.

Second, you have to recognize that laziness and procrastination are destructive to your word. When you take on a task you make a promise to somebody (perhaps just yourself, but somebody) that you will complete that task. Putting that off brings you out of integrity with your word in the matter. That’s not bad, or wrong, it just is what there is in the situation.

But integrity is the thing that makes life work. It is the structure that holds our interactions together. When integrity fails, the structure collapses. Honoring your word is the way to make sure that the integrity of the situation remains intact.

The best way to honor your word is to put it into some sort of reality. Start making and keeping a schedule, and a to-do list, if you don’t already. Start planning your actions, breaking them into smaller tasks that are more easily achievable. Those things serve as a very real reminder that you’ve made a promise that you need to keep. Your word has to be the thing that keeps you moving forward. Honoring that word has to become your primary motivation.

You also need to enlist others to keep you accountable. Get a friend to check up with you, and kick your ass. When you need motivating to take an action, somebody is there to hold you accountable for that action. This piece alone helped me finally finish up a college degree that had been awaiting completion for over 6 years. My friends found out, did all they could to help, and held me accountable to get it done.

But, most importantly, you have to recognize that honoring your word to yourself is absolutely critical. It’s easy to keep promises to others, we don’t like to disappoint. But it’s much harder to keep your word with yourself. You are every bit as deserving of that respect as anybody else who might be involved.

Change your perspective. It’ll change your life.”

Good, yeah? Leave a comment and let me know what you think.



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